Though we live in an increasingly casual world, weddings and engagements remain one area where many people still choose to maintain an element of formality.
Perhaps it is the pomp and circumstance that formality implies that simply makes our day feel more special, and makes the bride feels she is the princess-for-a-day that she deserves to be! But once prince charming has made his proposal (or princess charming has made hers) and agreements have been entered into, then regardless of your formality or lack thereof, it is time to tell the world about your plans.
Weddings are something that everybody has their own opinion on, and it can be very easy to cause upset at this time. It is important that, early on, the bride and groom acknowledge that the wedding day will be an expression of their love, and while they will be inviting their friends and family to be a part of this, their own wishes are the most important thing. Traditionally it is the bride’s family who pays for the wedding, though in modern times this is frequently not the case, but whoever pays for the big day should not be allowed hold the proceedings to ransom.
The joy of sharing such happy news with loved ones can be as much fun as the proposal itself
This is just as important when initially sharing the happy news – the couple should be sensitive to the needs of those close to them, but should ultimately conduct themselves as they see fit. The joy of sharing such happy news with loved ones can be as much fun as the proposal itself, but even family with whom you don’t get along should be promptly informed of the upcoming nuptials. And once those closest to you have been informed in person, it's time to inform the rest of the world.
Placing The Ad
How you choose to do this will depend on your social circle, and the various publications your associates are exposed to – there is little point in announcing the good news in the New York Times if all your friends live in Oklahoma. Most couples choose to place an ad in their local newspaper, or in the publications of any groups they are affiliated with, such as alumni magazines, or society newsletters.
Some couples prefer a more personal approach, and send announcements to all of their friends, as they would send save the date notifications, or wedding invitations. The approach you choose is really up to your personal preferences, so discuss the matter between yourselves, and with any family members you think would like an input.
